- Stop all contact with your ex: Or reduced it to a minimum
- Live a more spiritual life: Find the meaning of what it is happening to you.
- Exercise: A good workout produces naturally endorphins (natural pain killers) and serotonin, (feeling good neurotransmitters in your brain), which reduce your emotional pain and make you feel happy, even when you are going through a major change in your life.
- Set new professional goals and focus on pursuing your dreams: So, you turn your sorrow into treasures gold and professional success.
- Process your painful feelings in writing: After you write them, tear the paper apart and break the pencil or pen, cry all you need and let it go. This will make you emotionally stronger and resilient.
- Volunteer helping people in need: To build resilience and feel happier.
- Loving family and caring friends: Look for the emotional support from friends and family to make it easier to go through this challenge.
- Love from pals that have dreams and goals: Surround yourself with encouraging people that inspire you to work hard to reach new goals, so you keep going.
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We constantly face different changes in life, and it is easier to go through them when you have a plan that works. Of course, I learned this the hard way. I didn’t realize how important it was to take care of myself right after a big change in my life happened, until I got very sick.
After my love died, I started having insomnia. I was waking up very early every day, around three in the morning, and I couldn’t go back to sleep. I didn’t realize how serious it was, and I didn’t do anything. After a couple of months the lack of sleep started affecting me. I was feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and really, really stress out. The stress reached very high levels to the point that caused me mayor depression, I couldn’t function. Mayor depression affects your sleep, your mood, your decision making, your concentration, pretty much everything. My therapist emphasized that by keeping a journal and writing down all my activities and steps to accomplish my everyday goals, I would be able to improve my concentration. He also warned me that it was extremely important to prevent the stress from escalating again and that I had to decrease it by taking a warm bath tub, meditating, writing down all the things that were making me worry, stress out, etc. And that’s exactly what I did. It took me more than a year and a half to fully recover. So, it is always better to prevent it than to try to cure it. The first step is to start exercising to control the insomnia and all the negative symptoms that come with it. Ask your doctor before you start any exercise. Years ago, I saw on Accent Health a news report about insomnia. The reporter said that after a divorce, separation or the death of a love one, most people develop insomnia, and when this happens, it is important to bring your sleep routine back to normal by doing two and a half hours of exercise a day. Sadly, most doctors first prescribed medication. Heath Ledger was suffering from insomnia during his divorce, and later on, he suffered from other symptoms. He was allegedly prescribed with a deadly cocktail of pills to control his symptoms that caused his dead instead. Therefore, it is important to have a healthy approach that works and start taking care of yourself right after a painful change in your life occurs. If you are out of shape start slow and increase your exercise time gradually. Ask your doctor before you start exercising.
Women can easily overcome any difficult change in their lives by fulfilling these five empowering loves:
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AuthorA Pacifist Feminist Archives
March 2016
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